As a leader, entrepreneur, or creative, you likely know that success isn’t just about strategy, hard work, or even talent — it’s about alignment. You can have the best business model, the most innovative ideas, and an incredible work ethic, yet still feel blocked. Maybe you keep hitting a glass ceiling, attracting difficult clients, or struggling to trust yourself when making big decisions.

The reason you feel stuck in these moments is very likely because of energetic imprints from your past that are shaping your reality.

Energetic cords are metaphysical connections that tie us to people, situations, or experiences. They are formed in any relationship or interaction, particularly where emotions are involved. These cords can be positive and nourishing when aligned with healthy energy, but they can also become toxic or draining when they are linked to negative emotions, unresolved trauma, or past conflicts.

When we embark on the journey of personal healing, we not only transform our own lives but we also shape the destiny of future generations. The wounds we carry—whether emotional, psychological, or even physical—are often not solely ours. They are inherited echoes of the past, passed down through familial lines, embedded in our behaviours, beliefs, and even in our bodies. By consciously addressing and releasing these imprints of pain and trauma, we create an intergenerational shift, liberating our children and future descendants from burdens that have weighed heavily on our lineage.

My story around being able to show up in all my authenticity has been quite a rollercoaster. At my core, I am full of joy, wonder and love. I feel such a fire in my belly to help people live life from their hearts and in possibility rather than in fear.

However, as a child, I was punished for being joyful and for any time when my focus was anything other than giving attention to my Mother. As a result, I learnt to rein myself in, to ensure that I paid careful attention to understanding what others expected of me and updated my ‘rules for living’ with validation from others as to how ‘acceptable’ my behaviour was.

So many of the clients I see set themselves very high standards.  These standards are generally not attainable to live by and often involve never making a mistake.  As soon as they fall short of these standards (which inevitably they will as they are unrealistic) they can spend many hours telling themselves how useless they are.

As Christmas approaches, so do the Christmas parties, the work drinks and long lunches, the client entertaining…  and the social anxiety.  Many experience the build-up of anxiety before an event, worry about what to say, fitting in, how they are being judged, struggling with the constant need to run out of the door, and then the endless turning over in your mind afterwards of things that were said and done, xmas celebrations can be a painful time.

Many of us suffer from social anxiety, especially in new situations. This can mean that when entering a room our heads are held low, we feel self-conscious about what we are wearing or how we are acting, we wonder what others are thinking of us, we look around and compare ourselves to others, and it may mean that we choose to avoid certain social situations.

Being a perfectionist is often used as a badge of honour and something to feel proud about. Having high standards for ourselves can at times work well, pushing us to achieve great things. But more often than not, there are huge costs to imposing such high (and often impossible) standards on ourselves.

Life can be hard and painful – parents, friends, lovers can hurt us in ways that feel so painful, we decide never to let ourselves be hurt like that again. In doing so, we often retreat. We say ‘I like spending time alone’, we run from any situation when it may challenge these barriers. Or maybe we find solace in over-eating, drink or drugs which allow us to get away from any real ‘feeling’.

As we get towards the end of the year, it is a great time to review the way we live our lives. Some questions you might want to ask yourself are:

Receiving money should in theory be a simple transaction. Effort in = money out, right?

In reality, it is much more complicated than that. It’s amazing how often we might think that we are open to receiving an abundance of money, but our belief system is telling the universe something very different. What this means is that we energetically block the money that we want to receive.  

As Christmas gets near and lots of time spent with family is on the cards, dread can be the accompanying feeling for many.

Families are complicated beasts! If you leave family situations feeling worse about yourself or exhausted, it’s a good indication that there are some family patterns at play that you need to shine a light on.  

This is a big one. It comes up with so many of the clients I work with. The fear that if I make a change from what is a familiar life - even if many things do not make me happy - what if I fail? What would people think? What if it’s worse? What if I am more unhappy? Where do I go then?